Symbolism represented by the famous fictional character, The Hulk, warrants attention in a conversation about Anger Management. First lets address that Anger doesn’t have to be a negative emotion. In fact, used as a calibrator, it can be utilized as a signal for the inner-self to guide thought into action. As emotional intelligence experts, we would like to discuss The Incredible Hulk and utilize this personification to describe those struggling with the negative type of anger. We believe his case offers useful insight into the overwhelming symptoms many call the useless emotion. Anger (referred here on as The Hulk) is always ready to burst out at any moment. Surroundings conditions and internal frustrations constantly fuel The Hulk, daring him to lose control. Brave on the outside, from the eye of the public, The Hulk looks unstable, weak and despicable. Many people struggle with these same difficulties every day, only, they don’t turn into a giant green superhero as a result. In fact, conversely, they are more likely to suffer negative impact on their jobs and personal lives.
So, when one can’t rely on transforming into a giant-green-muscle man, how is human volatility or anger detected, before permanent damage has resulted? Be it your own emotions or the actions of someone you know, this list will help you spot signs of poor anger management.
Signs of difficulty with Anger Management:
- Inability to assess one’s own feelings
- Often ignites conflicts and disagreements
- Continually defensive in social situations
- Frequent ill feelings toward peers
- Alcohol or drugs are the chosen anger relief method on a regular basis
- Consistent clenching of jaw, stomach aches, tensing muscles, redness of face, body shaking, headaches, ringing in ears or extreme sensitivity of body temperature (My Mind Expert)
- Rapid loss of temper
- Self destructive behavior (Oprah.com)
- Braking of objects such as glass or punching walls
- Feared rather than respected by others
- Commonly having to apologize for behavior to friends, family and coworkers
- Reliance on cursing and blaming in verbal language
- Trouble with the law (WikiHow)
- Uneasy or tense body language (Huffington Post)
- Holding on to grudges
- Severe rage is sparked by “the little things”
- Inability to sleep well
- Tendency to spout backhanded compliments
- Makes hurtful “jokes”
- Known for yelling and high pitched tone
Scientifically, anger is a reaction to fear. That’s tricky because a person finds themselves displaying the behaviors described above, which are “angry actions,” but under the surface, the root of the issue is he existence of a fear. They may be scared of failure, pain, rejection or any number of uncomfortable outcomes common to everyday situations.
Unlike The Hulk, who physically can’t resist his anger and transformation, real people are capable of growth and change. Anger Management training is an obvious solution for severe cases of aggression. In professional settings, it is mandated, because studies show its quick ability to transfer from person to person or symmetry. In cases, where an individual over a span of time and prolonged levels of stress has become susceptible to reacting with anger, Emotional Intelligence training can go a long way in prevention and growth. The process involves becoming aware of the fear, acknowledgement, a humble attitude and willingness to work toward change. Achieving control is a crucial skill for leaders and is extremely achievable when one is shown how to make progress and replace old behaviors with new mechanisms.